We have talked about it... now its time to walk the talk!!!!
AMINIMARCH.. A Million Nigerians March for Change, the movement starts today!
The Objective
The goal for AMINIMARCH 2010/2011 is to raise 1 Billion Naira for Education.
How?
This cannot not be disclosed for security of concept reasons, however it will involve the participation of every Nigerian! As soon as we have concluded with potential partners and sponsors we will shed more light on how it will be done! because we need you to be involved there is no way we can embark on the project without telling you all how it will be achieved!
We will be working with selected banks for accountability, media Partners for transparency and all Nigerians for control!
What we need now!
Whether you are in a bush but as long as you have internet access or you are in the city and you know about secondary and primary schools that are in need of help across the country, please send details to boisnigeria@gmail.com with pictures if you can! This is what we need to create a clear strategy to contribute to the growth of the education system in Nigeria and to convince sponsors.
This is not a government project.. it is Nigerians that are fed up with waiting for government to solve the problem. We are not fighting the government, we are saying the government has tried and cannot do everything and for that reason we are contributing to help as much as we can.
The movement starts today! Please forward this to friends, enemies, family, relatives, business owners, every Nigerian and every individual who has the interest of Nigeria at heart!
Remember, it is bigger than me and it is bigger than you. But working together to build a better Nigeria can never be bigger than Us... people like you and me!
invite your friends to join the Thinking for Change Group here on facebook and if you are not a member here is the link
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=29268958422
God Bless
Godwin Tom
Bag Of Ideas Limited
Thinking for Change!
Today, i start the journey join me lets start here... now!!
Monday, March 1, 2010
In Love with a Stranger
IN LOVE WITH A STRANGER!
He saw her for the first time
On a Sunday and he knew she would be his
She looked beautiful, amazing and mature
She was one of the miracles he had never seen before
He could not believe he was falling in love with a stranger!
She became a friend, a sister, a confidant
he wanted more.Her time and maybe her heart
he believes in the law of reciprocity
So he gave his heart and hoped for mutuality
he still cannot believe he did that for a stranger!
He could not and still, cannot explainthe activities that went on in his chest
the day he asked her to be his
Ooooh! he was so glad she said “Yes”
Yet, they both knew they were still strangers!
He gave, did and said anything
To show her how in love with her he was
Even the beautiful land across the sea
Could not be as compelling as she was
he cannot believe he sacrificed so much for a stranger!
He is a stripling, being groomed for success
And he was taught that he would fall a thousand times on his chest.
he had seen someone he trusted to handle the contents (of his chest)
Was he foolish or was it that he did not ask for her consent?
How could he have given such responsibility to a stranger?
He has a lot of load to hold
Out of love, trust and thought for the future, he made her his pivot
He believed his respect, expectation and loyalty would reap plenty folds
He was probably silly because it has all come to not
And he wonders why he fell in love with a stranger!
He begged, he cried,
Even though he has been a man, more times, than he has been a child
He cannot figure how a punishment this cruel
could be used to correct a statement made out of an aching mind
All because he fell in love with a stranger!
He is a warrior, a leader, a future success story
One who has lived a life many young men cannot even imagine
One who has the strength that only God can bestow
Strength that will make the world bow
Nevertheless, he cannot understand why he is still in love with a stranger!
He saw her for the first time
On a Sunday and he knew she would be his
She looked beautiful, amazing and mature
She was one of the miracles he had never seen before
He could not believe he was falling in love with a stranger!
She became a friend, a sister, a confidant
he wanted more.Her time and maybe her heart
he believes in the law of reciprocity
So he gave his heart and hoped for mutuality
he still cannot believe he did that for a stranger!
He could not and still, cannot explainthe activities that went on in his chest
the day he asked her to be his
Ooooh! he was so glad she said “Yes”
Yet, they both knew they were still strangers!
He gave, did and said anything
To show her how in love with her he was
Even the beautiful land across the sea
Could not be as compelling as she was
he cannot believe he sacrificed so much for a stranger!
He is a stripling, being groomed for success
And he was taught that he would fall a thousand times on his chest.
he had seen someone he trusted to handle the contents (of his chest)
Was he foolish or was it that he did not ask for her consent?
How could he have given such responsibility to a stranger?
He has a lot of load to hold
Out of love, trust and thought for the future, he made her his pivot
He believed his respect, expectation and loyalty would reap plenty folds
He was probably silly because it has all come to not
And he wonders why he fell in love with a stranger!
He begged, he cried,
Even though he has been a man, more times, than he has been a child
He cannot figure how a punishment this cruel
could be used to correct a statement made out of an aching mind
All because he fell in love with a stranger!
He is a warrior, a leader, a future success story
One who has lived a life many young men cannot even imagine
One who has the strength that only God can bestow
Strength that will make the world bow
Nevertheless, he cannot understand why he is still in love with a stranger!
I Think... Life is too short
Life is too short…
Why waste it hating,
thinking about how you can hurt the people that have hurt you in the past?
Life is too short…
Why waste it expecting too much?
Why do you keep expecting someone to give you something that they don’t owe you?
Life is too short…
Why waste it lying?
Refusing to express what and how you feel and saying things when you don’t mean them
Life is too short…
Why waste it in regret?
You know you cannot undo what has been done? Please, move on jo!
Life is too short…
Why waste it trying to be like others?
They are living their own lives… live yours!
Life is too short…
Why waste it mingling with fear?
If you want something good… go get it!
Life is too short…
Why spend all of it praying?
I am a Christian too but nothing will happen unless you begin to act!
Life is too short…
Why live life the way people say?
What do you want to do? Figure it out and do it.
Life is too short…
Why hate that you are or were in love?
It’s a privilege few people enjoy. Make the most of it!
Life is too short…
Live with a clear conscience…
Love without fear…
Learn from your mistakes…
Smile…
Be You…
Live!
Why waste it hating,
thinking about how you can hurt the people that have hurt you in the past?
Life is too short…
Why waste it expecting too much?
Why do you keep expecting someone to give you something that they don’t owe you?
Life is too short…
Why waste it lying?
Refusing to express what and how you feel and saying things when you don’t mean them
Life is too short…
Why waste it in regret?
You know you cannot undo what has been done? Please, move on jo!
Life is too short…
Why waste it trying to be like others?
They are living their own lives… live yours!
Life is too short…
Why waste it mingling with fear?
If you want something good… go get it!
Life is too short…
Why spend all of it praying?
I am a Christian too but nothing will happen unless you begin to act!
Life is too short…
Why live life the way people say?
What do you want to do? Figure it out and do it.
Life is too short…
Why hate that you are or were in love?
It’s a privilege few people enjoy. Make the most of it!
Life is too short…
Live with a clear conscience…
Love without fear…
Learn from your mistakes…
Smile…
Be You…
Live!
I Think... You should try it
I woke up this morning and thought to my self “How can I make someone smile today?”
So, I got up, did all the regular morning activities and got on the road. My intention was to smile all day and probably “dash” some beggars money on my way to work or help a colleague do some of their work in the office, you know, something really nice.
Unfortunately, a lot of things happened this morning that made smiling very difficult. Like bike-men pissing me off by riding like Moto GP racers on tight Lagos roads, touts harassing everyone and hoping that they find a “mugu” to “chop”, getting to work and meeting a pile load of work even though I had worked all weekend. I don’t know about you but these things can smack the smile off your face. Even the beggars I planned to give money were annoying me.
"It’s Monday morning for God’s sake…" I thought to myself. I called a friend to have a laugh with him and fell dumb when heard him say “I just lost my dad” It hit me. I suddenly thought about loosing my father now, or my mom, or my brothers. I thought about what it would feel like to be in my friend’s position. Just the thought of loosing anyone I really care about broke me down.
Suddenly, I remembered I had not seen my mother in a while, my dad and I don’t live in the same state, my younger brother is in the University and far away from me, it’s been a while since I took my baby brother out, I have not spoken to my older brothers in a while. I felt a gap I needed to close up … immediately.
So, I called my family to let them know that I love them all. Bought my mother an Ankara, will be taking my baby brother to the movies during the weekend, called my dad to let him know that his son is doing just fine, called my older brothers to let them know I care and to my younger brother, I am sending money for his pocket to get a little fatter. lol!
There is a saying that “You never know what you have until it’s gone”. We probably won’t. But we can appreciate the things we have. Give your mother a call, holla at your father. Appreciate the fact that you have them. And if they are not here with us – God bless their souls, appreciate the fact that they made a conscious effort to make you what you have become today. Call someone important in your life and make them know they are important to you.
Why put roses on someone's grave, when you can put in their hands and see them smile in appreciation?
Give it a try and see how it feels... then please leave a comment. I really want to hear from you.
Cheers
So, I got up, did all the regular morning activities and got on the road. My intention was to smile all day and probably “dash” some beggars money on my way to work or help a colleague do some of their work in the office, you know, something really nice.
Unfortunately, a lot of things happened this morning that made smiling very difficult. Like bike-men pissing me off by riding like Moto GP racers on tight Lagos roads, touts harassing everyone and hoping that they find a “mugu” to “chop”, getting to work and meeting a pile load of work even though I had worked all weekend. I don’t know about you but these things can smack the smile off your face. Even the beggars I planned to give money were annoying me.
"It’s Monday morning for God’s sake…" I thought to myself. I called a friend to have a laugh with him and fell dumb when heard him say “I just lost my dad” It hit me. I suddenly thought about loosing my father now, or my mom, or my brothers. I thought about what it would feel like to be in my friend’s position. Just the thought of loosing anyone I really care about broke me down.
Suddenly, I remembered I had not seen my mother in a while, my dad and I don’t live in the same state, my younger brother is in the University and far away from me, it’s been a while since I took my baby brother out, I have not spoken to my older brothers in a while. I felt a gap I needed to close up … immediately.
So, I called my family to let them know that I love them all. Bought my mother an Ankara, will be taking my baby brother to the movies during the weekend, called my dad to let him know that his son is doing just fine, called my older brothers to let them know I care and to my younger brother, I am sending money for his pocket to get a little fatter. lol!
There is a saying that “You never know what you have until it’s gone”. We probably won’t. But we can appreciate the things we have. Give your mother a call, holla at your father. Appreciate the fact that you have them. And if they are not here with us – God bless their souls, appreciate the fact that they made a conscious effort to make you what you have become today. Call someone important in your life and make them know they are important to you.
Why put roses on someone's grave, when you can put in their hands and see them smile in appreciation?
Give it a try and see how it feels... then please leave a comment. I really want to hear from you.
Cheers
I Think... It takes time
I was having a conversation with a friend who just graduated from the University and said she is looking for a job. When I asked her what she wanted to do, she said… “Anything that won’t stress me but will pay well” Needless to say, I laughed and walked away.
As we grow older, we discover that life is not a bed of roses. We also understand that it is not a bed of thorns either… its both! A combination of pain, frustration, depression, sadness, challenges, disappointments and mistakes mixed with happiness, breakthroughs, surprises, expectations, achievements etc.
As time goes by, the things we hoped to understand “when we get older” become more mysterious and complicated. Most of us have moved from “my monthly allowance from daddy” to “my payslip from my employer”… ok, some of us didn’t have any “monthly allowance from daddy” but there has been progression. We have moved from point “A” to point “B”. Whether intellectually, socially, financially, physically or academically, there has been movement. But we are still not satisfied. Something is always missing…
Is it just a natural tendency of man to move above what he has accomplished already or is it God speaking to those who don’t have Him to reconsider by making us feel emptiness inside? Everyone has their opinion and I will not choose for you. What I do know is that whether you believe in God or not, you will always believe things can be better. That you can achieve more… that you can have more.
We have all made mistakes in the past. Some of us are still nursing the wounds our mistakes have caused us. Every decision has its reward… or consequences. As we move on in life towards our aspirations and dreams, we begin to wonder how much time has passed, how much we have gone through to get to where we are, how many people have been instrumental to our successes and falls… and then we look forward to the future!
That is what this article is about. Looking forward to the Future. There will always be a way forward no matter what we are going through or what we have achieved. We can still move forward. We can still do more. We can still be better.
When an outcome is unknown, decisions and action are the only ways to find out what side of the fence the fat lady will sing. The good end or the bad end.
If you are about to make an important decision, remember one thing… You Must Move Forward! As much as this is an encouragement to everyone… I need this too!
Because “something” is the best today, does not mean “something” better can not emerge tomorrow!
Cheers!
As we grow older, we discover that life is not a bed of roses. We also understand that it is not a bed of thorns either… its both! A combination of pain, frustration, depression, sadness, challenges, disappointments and mistakes mixed with happiness, breakthroughs, surprises, expectations, achievements etc.
As time goes by, the things we hoped to understand “when we get older” become more mysterious and complicated. Most of us have moved from “my monthly allowance from daddy” to “my payslip from my employer”… ok, some of us didn’t have any “monthly allowance from daddy” but there has been progression. We have moved from point “A” to point “B”. Whether intellectually, socially, financially, physically or academically, there has been movement. But we are still not satisfied. Something is always missing…
Is it just a natural tendency of man to move above what he has accomplished already or is it God speaking to those who don’t have Him to reconsider by making us feel emptiness inside? Everyone has their opinion and I will not choose for you. What I do know is that whether you believe in God or not, you will always believe things can be better. That you can achieve more… that you can have more.
We have all made mistakes in the past. Some of us are still nursing the wounds our mistakes have caused us. Every decision has its reward… or consequences. As we move on in life towards our aspirations and dreams, we begin to wonder how much time has passed, how much we have gone through to get to where we are, how many people have been instrumental to our successes and falls… and then we look forward to the future!
That is what this article is about. Looking forward to the Future. There will always be a way forward no matter what we are going through or what we have achieved. We can still move forward. We can still do more. We can still be better.
When an outcome is unknown, decisions and action are the only ways to find out what side of the fence the fat lady will sing. The good end or the bad end.
If you are about to make an important decision, remember one thing… You Must Move Forward! As much as this is an encouragement to everyone… I need this too!
Because “something” is the best today, does not mean “something” better can not emerge tomorrow!
Cheers!
I Think... We should get a little more conscious
Hey guys,
It’s been a while, hasn’t it? I have been… occupied.
Today on my “I Think…” series notes…lol, I would like to share the lyrics of the rap I wrote and recorded over the weekend. Yea… I also rap!
The idea is to awaken and educate us about certain things we say, especially the things that most of us either don’t know where it came from or we continually argue about. Well this rap is my argument… and I hope your education. Do your research... that should help.
“So many people don’t know now that’s called ignorance
some don’t want to learn, now that’s called stupidity, u see
we have slavery and liberty probably you’ll understand
if too many people stopped talking abnormally
Like coach Carter, I’ll call you “sir” and pray for help
Show you respect that you don’t have for yourself
First it was colonial masters, then alcohol, then weed
Now are we enslaving ourselves?
“Nigga” is a word used to insult the forefathers of a black man
Living in America
When fathers were sold as slaves, kids lost their mothers
In case you don’t know these people came from Africa…
From the Krus to the Dahomeans, Binis to Yorubas
They didn’t care, they even took the Hausas
From the Mongos to Ashantis, Efiks to fantis, they took them all
From the mandigos to the Ibos
Put them in ships and shipped them to work in fields to be beaten
Left to work in the sun without water or clothes
Beaten and slapped until they bleed but they hung on
Fought to the end till they were freed
They fought for their kids and grandkids
Even if the battle’s not over we see the dream of Luther, King Martin
Fought and in the process left legacies
Making sure their offspring won’t be used for shooting practice
But what do we see today? Brothers buying guns to kill each other
Why cant we all just get along and love each other, listen
I am NOT coloured, I am BLACK and PROUD
if you don’t hear me I’m saying it loud… DON’T CALL ME A NIGGA”
Please share your views.
Cheers
“I Think…”
It’s been a while, hasn’t it? I have been… occupied.
Today on my “I Think…” series notes…lol, I would like to share the lyrics of the rap I wrote and recorded over the weekend. Yea… I also rap!
The idea is to awaken and educate us about certain things we say, especially the things that most of us either don’t know where it came from or we continually argue about. Well this rap is my argument… and I hope your education. Do your research... that should help.
“So many people don’t know now that’s called ignorance
some don’t want to learn, now that’s called stupidity, u see
we have slavery and liberty probably you’ll understand
if too many people stopped talking abnormally
Like coach Carter, I’ll call you “sir” and pray for help
Show you respect that you don’t have for yourself
First it was colonial masters, then alcohol, then weed
Now are we enslaving ourselves?
“Nigga” is a word used to insult the forefathers of a black man
Living in America
When fathers were sold as slaves, kids lost their mothers
In case you don’t know these people came from Africa…
From the Krus to the Dahomeans, Binis to Yorubas
They didn’t care, they even took the Hausas
From the Mongos to Ashantis, Efiks to fantis, they took them all
From the mandigos to the Ibos
Put them in ships and shipped them to work in fields to be beaten
Left to work in the sun without water or clothes
Beaten and slapped until they bleed but they hung on
Fought to the end till they were freed
They fought for their kids and grandkids
Even if the battle’s not over we see the dream of Luther, King Martin
Fought and in the process left legacies
Making sure their offspring won’t be used for shooting practice
But what do we see today? Brothers buying guns to kill each other
Why cant we all just get along and love each other, listen
I am NOT coloured, I am BLACK and PROUD
if you don’t hear me I’m saying it loud… DON’T CALL ME A NIGGA”
Please share your views.
Cheers
“I Think…”
I Think Life is about Tough decisions
Change is the only constant thing in life.
As cliché as that may sound, it is true. However, the effects of change are either far more devastating or comforting. As they say, “One man’s meat is another man’s poison.
Change will always cause a reaction. To some people, it will be a good thing and for others, it’s not just what they need. Change affects all of us differently. Even when it’s positive for people, some people end up benefiting more from a change than others.
There are changes that are beyond our control like natural disasters or the weather… you know stuff like that. However, I intend to focus on the changes that are caused by us… Me and you. Everyday, we are faced with making decisions as part of daily activities. But, once in a while we are faced with difficulties that cause us to make decisions that have the potential to hurt some of the people we love and care about. As if making these decisions are not hard enough, we also face the issue of being misunderstood by other people who really have no business with the decision made. The scenario then becomes one that everyone involved becomes sad or hurt. You are sad about the decision you “had” to make that has probably hurt someone you love. The people affected are hurt by your decision and some people who have no business with the entire process fill the need to carry on the pain meant for someone else to endure and hate you in the process. It is not always this complicated… sometimes it is more complicated. But someone gets burnt by your decisions. Then you become miserable because you are afraid of the outcome if you had not made such a decision.
I don’t mean to confuse anyone on this interesting Friday. All I am trying to say is… you can NEVER please everyone with your decisions. People will always believe what they decide to believe. As humans, we all see things differently, it’s called Paradigms. Perceptions. Point of view. Whatever you decide to call it, life will only make sense based on how you see and respond to it. If you are sure about the decision you are making in life… you owe no one an apology. Move on. If it is a mistake, learn from it. Simple!
Treat people with respect. Show love, don’t just profess it. Most importantly, FIND YOURSELF. This is the greatest thing that will ever happen to anyone. Whether you are male, female or alien or you are black, white or Michael Jackson. Therefore, let your decisions be tailored towards self actualisation.
The most important thing to note today is this and quote me…
“No one person is an island, and because of this, you will never find as much happiness in life unless your actions are tailored towards the happiness of someone else”
Yes, I, Mfon Godwin Tom said it. Think about it, we do not live for ourselves. Something, someone somewhere keeps us alive, help us believe we can do it, remind us that we NEED to make it, push us to the limits, encourages us, makes us HAPPY.
If you are faced with a difficult decision, take a deep breath and think about the people that will be affected. Will it affect them positively? If it hurts them, is it necessary or worth it. Remember, you are responsible for your actions!
Humans are made to co-exist and life is about tough decisions… if you are not making any tough decisions you are not living… you merely exist.
Cheers,
I think...
As cliché as that may sound, it is true. However, the effects of change are either far more devastating or comforting. As they say, “One man’s meat is another man’s poison.
Change will always cause a reaction. To some people, it will be a good thing and for others, it’s not just what they need. Change affects all of us differently. Even when it’s positive for people, some people end up benefiting more from a change than others.
There are changes that are beyond our control like natural disasters or the weather… you know stuff like that. However, I intend to focus on the changes that are caused by us… Me and you. Everyday, we are faced with making decisions as part of daily activities. But, once in a while we are faced with difficulties that cause us to make decisions that have the potential to hurt some of the people we love and care about. As if making these decisions are not hard enough, we also face the issue of being misunderstood by other people who really have no business with the decision made. The scenario then becomes one that everyone involved becomes sad or hurt. You are sad about the decision you “had” to make that has probably hurt someone you love. The people affected are hurt by your decision and some people who have no business with the entire process fill the need to carry on the pain meant for someone else to endure and hate you in the process. It is not always this complicated… sometimes it is more complicated. But someone gets burnt by your decisions. Then you become miserable because you are afraid of the outcome if you had not made such a decision.
I don’t mean to confuse anyone on this interesting Friday. All I am trying to say is… you can NEVER please everyone with your decisions. People will always believe what they decide to believe. As humans, we all see things differently, it’s called Paradigms. Perceptions. Point of view. Whatever you decide to call it, life will only make sense based on how you see and respond to it. If you are sure about the decision you are making in life… you owe no one an apology. Move on. If it is a mistake, learn from it. Simple!
Treat people with respect. Show love, don’t just profess it. Most importantly, FIND YOURSELF. This is the greatest thing that will ever happen to anyone. Whether you are male, female or alien or you are black, white or Michael Jackson. Therefore, let your decisions be tailored towards self actualisation.
The most important thing to note today is this and quote me…
“No one person is an island, and because of this, you will never find as much happiness in life unless your actions are tailored towards the happiness of someone else”
Yes, I, Mfon Godwin Tom said it. Think about it, we do not live for ourselves. Something, someone somewhere keeps us alive, help us believe we can do it, remind us that we NEED to make it, push us to the limits, encourages us, makes us HAPPY.
If you are faced with a difficult decision, take a deep breath and think about the people that will be affected. Will it affect them positively? If it hurts them, is it necessary or worth it. Remember, you are responsible for your actions!
Humans are made to co-exist and life is about tough decisions… if you are not making any tough decisions you are not living… you merely exist.
Cheers,
I think...
Grow Up
My friend’s parents have a neighbour who maltreats his wife. She has two kids for him but he doesn’t care... well his actions don’t show that he does. The wife has been bearing his crap until now. The Negro has lost his mind. Talks to his parents and in-laws disrespectfully and has gone to introduce himself to another family as a potential husband. For those who can’t read between the lines... he is planning to marry someone else! This is where I end this story because that’s all I know.
This is not my business. The guy is not my brother. He is not related to my family. He does not even know any one of my family members. So I made sure I paid attention to the things that concern me. I really did until yesterday!
I walked into my friend’s house to meet them having a discussion and the wife of this guy was sitting there as well. They were talking about the way the man has been treating the woman and asking her what she intends to do. Out of the blues, my friend’s mother looked at me and said...”Godwin, I didn’t know your people were like that. Or didn’t you know he is from your place?”
I thought for a second and said... “Ah! Mommy, it’s a personal thing. That’s who he chooses to be”. Then I went into the room to meet my friend.
As we grow, we make decisions as individuals that shape how we react to situations, circumstances and other people. Sometimes we are forced into our decisions but the truth is that there is always an alternative. May not be favourable but there is always an alternative...unless it’s out of your control!
We are who we are because of the choices we make and we should learn to be responsible for our actions because at the end of the day... You did it! Yes, you said yes to the guy. You went for the job interview and even did well enough to let the interviewer know that you wanted the job. You did it. You made the decision. Now be responsible and live with it and if you think it’s not good enough... sort it out!
Some of us don’t usually think about the decisions we make so we react while some others take time to think. These people are regarded as proactive people. Nonetheless, whichever category you find yourself, remember that you are responsible for your actions.
It’s a new week... you owe it to yourself and others around you to be responsible. Responsible for your actions and your words. The reason why we “grow up” is because we learn to “pass” the “tests” that life sets for us from time to time. These “tests” make us more experienced and more mature in dealing with situations. Unfortunately for some people, one can’t pay his or her way through this school of life... it’s either you “fail” or you “pass” and if you fail, that exam will repeat itself until you get things right... or you suffer. Simple!
Responsibilities as far as I am concerned differentiate those that are growing up or grown up from those that are not. Everyone grows older but not everyone grows up!
Be responsible. Grow up!
This is not my business. The guy is not my brother. He is not related to my family. He does not even know any one of my family members. So I made sure I paid attention to the things that concern me. I really did until yesterday!
I walked into my friend’s house to meet them having a discussion and the wife of this guy was sitting there as well. They were talking about the way the man has been treating the woman and asking her what she intends to do. Out of the blues, my friend’s mother looked at me and said...”Godwin, I didn’t know your people were like that. Or didn’t you know he is from your place?”
I thought for a second and said... “Ah! Mommy, it’s a personal thing. That’s who he chooses to be”. Then I went into the room to meet my friend.
As we grow, we make decisions as individuals that shape how we react to situations, circumstances and other people. Sometimes we are forced into our decisions but the truth is that there is always an alternative. May not be favourable but there is always an alternative...unless it’s out of your control!
We are who we are because of the choices we make and we should learn to be responsible for our actions because at the end of the day... You did it! Yes, you said yes to the guy. You went for the job interview and even did well enough to let the interviewer know that you wanted the job. You did it. You made the decision. Now be responsible and live with it and if you think it’s not good enough... sort it out!
Some of us don’t usually think about the decisions we make so we react while some others take time to think. These people are regarded as proactive people. Nonetheless, whichever category you find yourself, remember that you are responsible for your actions.
It’s a new week... you owe it to yourself and others around you to be responsible. Responsible for your actions and your words. The reason why we “grow up” is because we learn to “pass” the “tests” that life sets for us from time to time. These “tests” make us more experienced and more mature in dealing with situations. Unfortunately for some people, one can’t pay his or her way through this school of life... it’s either you “fail” or you “pass” and if you fail, that exam will repeat itself until you get things right... or you suffer. Simple!
Responsibilities as far as I am concerned differentiate those that are growing up or grown up from those that are not. Everyone grows older but not everyone grows up!
Be responsible. Grow up!
To All Women!
I woke up on Saturday morning and something my dad had said to me a few years ago kept repeating itself in my head. I was being pissed off by a girl in school. Out of anger and maybe hope that someone would support me I told my dad... I remember he hated how Cynthia R. beat up men in her movies. So I told him that a girl was getting on my nerves and I wanted to beat her. He looked at me as if to say... “Boy, are you crazy?” then he gave me the warning of my life. “If I ever hear that you raised your hand to hit a woman... I will beat you to sleep. If you think you are strong, fight a man like you!” ...and I have never hit a woman in my life... Thanks dad!
My father also had a thing for protecting women. He would tell me, “Always walk on the right hand side of a woman. That way she is in a safe position on the road.” Now women believe I am a gentleman. Well, I am...lol! Thanks again dad.
This might sound like a tribute to my dad but it’s actually not. It is a dedication to Women. The women I know and those that I don’t know. Those that have knowingly or unknowingly hurt me and those that I may have done same to. The ones that have been useful to my life goals and the ones that have come into my life to ruin it. As far as i am concerned, this is the month I am dedicating to you all.
To women being abused and you don’t have the courage to talk to someone about it. I need you to come out of your shell and regain your respect.
To the women who have been heartbroken, please move on... he had enough power to make you cry when he left, don’t give him more by holding on to things that don’t want to hold on to you.
To the women that face making tough decisions in their lives, remember what really matters to you. Yourself or the people you love... the things that make you happy.
To the loyal and faithful woman, I tip my hat in respect and admiration that in spite of all the challenges and wooing by other man, you DECIDED to stay faithful. More power to your elbow.
To the single mother of three who has managed to raise her children without dragging her name into the mud, God will reward your work... here on this earth.
To the mother of five boys, that would die before letting harm come her children’s way. I love you Mom.
To the woman, who has to keep her job and her family together, may God grant you the strength you need.
To the industrious, hard working and committed lady in my life. Thank you for your support and love Doyinsola. I appreciate it all!
To the women who would agree to be in pain and discomfort for 9 months, your deed will never be forgotten.
To the beautiful women who face the challenges of being seen as sex objects by the people they love, trust and respect, I hope you find happiness with the people who truly care.
To those being scorned because of how they look, beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder. Some people do recognise and appreciate TRUE beauty.
To the friend who would trust and give and not ask for anything in return, thank you for your friendship Sade.
To every woman going through hurt in any form, I cannot say I know what you are going through because I truly don’t... just know that someone somewhere is thinking about you with respect, love and admiration.
This is to all Women.
My father also had a thing for protecting women. He would tell me, “Always walk on the right hand side of a woman. That way she is in a safe position on the road.” Now women believe I am a gentleman. Well, I am...lol! Thanks again dad.
This might sound like a tribute to my dad but it’s actually not. It is a dedication to Women. The women I know and those that I don’t know. Those that have knowingly or unknowingly hurt me and those that I may have done same to. The ones that have been useful to my life goals and the ones that have come into my life to ruin it. As far as i am concerned, this is the month I am dedicating to you all.
To women being abused and you don’t have the courage to talk to someone about it. I need you to come out of your shell and regain your respect.
To the women who have been heartbroken, please move on... he had enough power to make you cry when he left, don’t give him more by holding on to things that don’t want to hold on to you.
To the women that face making tough decisions in their lives, remember what really matters to you. Yourself or the people you love... the things that make you happy.
To the loyal and faithful woman, I tip my hat in respect and admiration that in spite of all the challenges and wooing by other man, you DECIDED to stay faithful. More power to your elbow.
To the single mother of three who has managed to raise her children without dragging her name into the mud, God will reward your work... here on this earth.
To the mother of five boys, that would die before letting harm come her children’s way. I love you Mom.
To the woman, who has to keep her job and her family together, may God grant you the strength you need.
To the industrious, hard working and committed lady in my life. Thank you for your support and love Doyinsola. I appreciate it all!
To the women who would agree to be in pain and discomfort for 9 months, your deed will never be forgotten.
To the beautiful women who face the challenges of being seen as sex objects by the people they love, trust and respect, I hope you find happiness with the people who truly care.
To those being scorned because of how they look, beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder. Some people do recognise and appreciate TRUE beauty.
To the friend who would trust and give and not ask for anything in return, thank you for your friendship Sade.
To every woman going through hurt in any form, I cannot say I know what you are going through because I truly don’t... just know that someone somewhere is thinking about you with respect, love and admiration.
This is to all Women.
It is time!
It was 4:55am on Sunday and i decided to see for myself. Clear my doubts and know for a fact... that the way it is during the day is not the same why it would be or feel early in the morning. Without all the smoke from exhausts pipes of the buses and cars that flow to and from the place. I needed to be sure, so... there i stood trying real hard to convince myself that when i take in that deep breath, the smell would be different, that fresh air can actually be available in this part of the city. So here we go... breathe in, breathe... (cough,cough). No matter how much i prepared for the worse what hit me was not what i expected... Obalende still smelt terrible, even at 4:57am. Then I wept!
It really got me thinking and asking myself... “is anything in life free?” “What is the price we must pay to enjoy the bests things that we were told are free?”
Then i started thiking about all the things i was told are free... hapiness, Salvation, love, fresh air... yada yada yada. Are they really free? Isnt there a price to pay to acquire or earn these things?
Well i personally believe that nothing in life... nothing... is free! Nobody owes you anything!
There is a price for everything we desire, be it emotional, financial, physical, psychological or social. Payment may not need to be made in cash or cheques but a sacrifice has to be made.
If there has to be change in our lives, our families, our societies, our nation, our continent, our world... our generation... We MUST make sacrifices.
Nigeria is in our hands... Its our own. Our PRIDE is at Stake and it is time to embark on the MARCH that will bring about the CHANGE that we want in NIGERIA.
I have lived in Victoria Garden City and I have lived in Obalende... the good air we want is not free people. There is a price!
I love my country... I am a PROUD Nigerian but i don’t want to weep anymore for my country. I don’t want to keep sitting down doing nothing. I don’t want to keep talking about “it”, whatever “it” means to you that need to be changed in our nation. I don’t want to keep waiting for someone else to stand up and do something so i can follow. I don’t want to keep being the guy who just goes to work everyday feeling miserable and empty inside, feeling tired before the end of the day, having no time for myself during the day and going home feeling frustrated because of thoughts and ideas roaming in my head that will give people jobs, feed families, build our country... ideas that will truly make Nigeria Home!
So today, i have decided to move on...with nothing but a dream, hope and belief that i can be part of the Change that will cause a REVOLUTION! A new way of life where we love our nation... where our love for the nation keeps us together as one... not as Yoruba people, not as hausa people, not as Igbo people, not as Efik people but as Nigerians. It is high time we built Nigeria as a people, as a way of life, as Green, White, Green and most important... as HOME!
Today, i start the journey but i am feeling alone... will you join me?
If your answer is yes, then, lets start here...
http://www.new.facebook.co
It really got me thinking and asking myself... “is anything in life free?” “What is the price we must pay to enjoy the bests things that we were told are free?”
Then i started thiking about all the things i was told are free... hapiness, Salvation, love, fresh air... yada yada yada. Are they really free? Isnt there a price to pay to acquire or earn these things?
Well i personally believe that nothing in life... nothing... is free! Nobody owes you anything!
There is a price for everything we desire, be it emotional, financial, physical, psychological or social. Payment may not need to be made in cash or cheques but a sacrifice has to be made.
If there has to be change in our lives, our families, our societies, our nation, our continent, our world... our generation... We MUST make sacrifices.
Nigeria is in our hands... Its our own. Our PRIDE is at Stake and it is time to embark on the MARCH that will bring about the CHANGE that we want in NIGERIA.
I have lived in Victoria Garden City and I have lived in Obalende... the good air we want is not free people. There is a price!
I love my country... I am a PROUD Nigerian but i don’t want to weep anymore for my country. I don’t want to keep sitting down doing nothing. I don’t want to keep talking about “it”, whatever “it” means to you that need to be changed in our nation. I don’t want to keep waiting for someone else to stand up and do something so i can follow. I don’t want to keep being the guy who just goes to work everyday feeling miserable and empty inside, feeling tired before the end of the day, having no time for myself during the day and going home feeling frustrated because of thoughts and ideas roaming in my head that will give people jobs, feed families, build our country... ideas that will truly make Nigeria Home!
So today, i have decided to move on...with nothing but a dream, hope and belief that i can be part of the Change that will cause a REVOLUTION! A new way of life where we love our nation... where our love for the nation keeps us together as one... not as Yoruba people, not as hausa people, not as Igbo people, not as Efik people but as Nigerians. It is high time we built Nigeria as a people, as a way of life, as Green, White, Green and most important... as HOME!
Today, i start the journey but i am feeling alone... will you join me?
If your answer is yes, then, lets start here...
http://www.new.facebook.co
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